Online Therapy for Codependency.

Overview

As an online therapist, I'm here to help you understand codependency and its impact on relationships. Codependency refers to a dysfunctional relationship dynamic where one person, "the giver," sacrifices their own needs and well-being for the sake of the other person, "the taker." This dynamic can exist in various types of relationships, such as romantic partnerships, parent-child relationships, friendships, or among family members.

What is Codependency?

Originally, the term "codependency" emerged in the context of substance abuse to describe relationships consumed and controlled by one person's addiction. Over time, it has become a more general term for any enabling relationship. It's important to note that codependency is not a clinical diagnosis or a personality disorder, and its definition has been the subject of debate and controversy among psychology experts.

In a healthy relationship, both parties offer love and support to each other. However, codependent relationships are one-sided, with one person taking on the role of a constant caregiver. This caregiver may inadvertently enable a loved one's irresponsible or destructive behavior, ultimately hindering their recovery and perpetuating the problem. Establishing emotional distance from the troubled loved one is often seen as a necessary and beneficial step for the codependent partner, as it exposes the loved one to the consequences of their actions.

Codependent individuals may exhibit weaknesses such as low self-esteem, an excessive need to please others, or poor interpersonal boundaries, which can cause them to feel responsible for the problems of others.

Codependency often arises from dysfunctional family dynamics or experiences with a close friend or family member who has struggled with addiction or mental illness. Childhood trauma and anxiety or insecurity in relationships may also contribute to codependency. However, it's essential to remember that anyone can fall into an unhealthy relationship pattern.

Signs of Codependency

Common signs of codependency include the giver being overly responsible, making excuses for the taker, and taking over their obligations. Givers tend to be self-critical and perfectionistic, seeking validation by fixing or rescuing others. They may focus so much on pleasing others that they neglect their own wants and needs. Givers generally have low self-esteem, find it hard to set boundaries and be assertive, and struggle with asking for help when needed. Takers often grapple with emotional immaturity, mental health issues, and addiction.

As your online therapist, I'm here to provide guidance and support as you navigate and understand codependency and its impact on your life. Please feel free to reach out if you have any questions or concerns.